If you’re in the middle of a break up with your girlfriend and aren’t sure about what to do, let me offer you some solid advice. I’ve spoken with dozens of friends and colleagues that have been through break ups and noted how they were able to succeed at getting their ex girlfriends back after a break up. One thing they all had in common was step by step strategy that began with a solid foundation.
The best break up advice I can give you starts with taking into account four factors that might not be as straightforward as they appear. Once answering these four questions, however, you can start building a successful strategy for getting her back that is unique to your relationship.
Every relationship is different. What works for someone else might not work perfectly for you. What men who succeed at getting an ex girlfriend back have in common is that they have answered all four questions and used their answers to develop a strategy for fixing their troubled relationship.
Question 1: How long have you been a couple?
The length of your relationship will determine how quickly you need to act in order to win her back. It also defines how many mistakes you can afford to make before completely wrecking your chances of getting her back. As a general rule the longer your relationship was healthy the longer you can allow the natural healing process to take it’s course. In other words, if you were a happy couple for a long time you have a better chance at her forgetting about whatever it was that caused your break up without too much intervention from you. On the flip-side, if you haven’t been together for very long giving her “space” isn’t going to help.
Question 2: How long has it been since the break up?
Obviously, time works against you when trying to get your ex girlfriend back after a break up. What many men don’t realize is that your strategy for getting her back should also vary in accordance with the amount of time since the break up. For help understanding exactly how to vary your strategy I suggest consulting The Magic Of Making Up. Their highly successful system has some some expert advice for adapting your strategy for different situations. What might be an excellent tip for a recent break up might not work at all for a guy that hasn’t spoken to his ex in six months!
Question 3: What was the reason for the break up?
The answer for this question might be different when given by the male and female point of view. When developing a strategy for getting your ex girlfriend back it’s far more important to understand the woman’s point of view, whether it makes sense to a man or not. If your ex is like most, her explanation for why she’s breaking up only scratches the surface of her discontent. To fully understand why your woman called it quits you need a woman’s insight. For this reason I highly recommend Ashley Kay’s Ex Recovery System. She has a unique talent for helping men understand the psychology behind a break up.
Question 4: What have you done wrong since the break up?
If you’re reading this, then whatever you’ve done to get your ex girlfriend back hasn’t worked yet. If you haven’t done anything then the answer to this question is simple. But if you’ve been trying and trying to mend things and now she wont even answer your phone calls, then you’re in trouble. Even if your ex refuses to make contact with you you should not give up hope. There are ways to get her attention in a positive way.
In The Ex Recovery System Ashley Kay teaches men how to remove their ex girlfriends resistance to making contact in an easy to follow step by step manner that will have her calling you up and asking you to meet her before you know it!
Every break up is unique and requires a slightly different approach. The two systems mentioned above have been proven effective hundreds, possibly thousands, of times for couples with a variety of different problems. Whatever your answers to the above four questions are there is still hope for mending your relationship and leading a happy life again with the woman you so obviously care for.